Our private marriage counseling retreat offers a lot of re-education. Many of the commonly held notions about relationships aren’t true. Here are some sobering facts: Over half of all marriages end in divorce. Do you think the other 45 % are in bliss? Figure that half of them are in agony, holding on for the kids or the finances. Probably only 20% to 25 % really know how to cultivate rich affection over the years. That means that you have to get smarter than normal. Don’t rely on the “common knowledge” out there. Much of it is bogus. Here are some articles I’ve written so you might appreciate how our relationships are truly complex and paradoxical.