Musings and Contemplations – Bryce Kaye

LO Blog Badge 3Whether I’m on my boat on one of our couples counseling retreats or in my land-based practice, I occasionally catch flitting contemplations of curious wonderment.  As fast as they come I try to tweet them out before they evaporate from my mind.  Some of these ideas are probably my most creative  because they’re served up hot from the unconscious.  I thought it might make some amusing reading to see them condensed into one list.  It was amazing to see how much had collected over time.  So, here they are if you like to chew on abstract ideas……..

 

Thought for the day: Beneath all arrogance lurks cowardice to face the truth.

 

Question for the day: Does God paint meaning into the world like we paint it into our own minds?

 

Thought for the day: Maybe it requires one to be God in order to understand the meaning of it all.

 

Thought for the day: The self paradoxically grows stronger as it attaches value beyond itself.

 

Thought for the day: Paternalism is where some people hide from their dependence.

 

Thought for the day: 0ur parents are far less responsible for our character than what we do with what they’ve given us.

 

Question for the day: When does rebellion against political correctness start hurting another’s welfare?

 

Thought for the day: The detritus from decaying narcissism can provide the perfect loam for new spiritual growth.

 

Question for the day: Can life ever evolve to the point that it transcends baronic matter and enters the realm of dark energy?

 

Thought for the day: Standing up for a principle is usually better than “standing up for yourself.”

 

Thought for the day: The safe passage to love skirts the shoals of false pride and shame.

 

Thought for the day: The most powerful form of confrontation is often a question.

 

Thought for the day: If you really want to learn about true love…….get a dog.

 

Thought for the day: It seems that history is the perfect Rorschach upon which to project our narcissism.

 

Question for the day: Is there ANY form of government anywhere that doesn’t eventually turn parasitic?

 

Thought for the day: Meaning is a factitious placebo that really matters !

 

Thought for the day: The problem with meaning is that too many people approach it as a science instead of an art.

 

Thought for the day: Spiritual fitness = the ability to value in a self transcendent way.

 

Thought for the day: Real strength is having the spiritual courage to face the way things really are.

 

Thought for the day: Relationships are now harder since we no longer need our mates to help us survive.

 

Thought for the day: Every failure is an opportunity for spiritual growth depending on the meaning one chooses to attach to it.

 

Thought for the day: Awareness and acceptance of fear is an investment on the path to greater strength.

 

Thought for the day: Redistribution of wealth DOES need to take place but in the form of opportunity and not dependency.

 

Thought for the day: It takes character to refuse love that’s tainted with disrespect.

 

Thought for the day: Meaning and faith must be close cousins.

 

One of the few perks of old age: you can really enjoy the DVD that you forgot you saw last year.

 

Thought for the day: The existentially impoverished will seek out vehicles for righteous indignation.

 

Thought for the day: The politics of envy and the politics of greed have infected both parties respectively.

 

Thought for the day: All meaning involves some faith but not all meaning is beneficial.

 

Question for the day: Is meaning a self regulation currency for the human tribe?

 

Thought for the day: Isn’t it more respectful to remain in uncertain awe than to project human psychology onto the mind of God?

 

Thought for the day: The first casualty of an addiction is the ability to accurately model the future in one’s unconscious.

 

Thought for the day: A good measure of character is the willingness to be held accountable.

 

Thought for the day: The greatest challenge in a relationship is to pursue attachment while refusing enmeshment.

 

Thought for the day: Character is the degree to which a person will pay for their integrity with discomfort.

 

Thought for the day: Sometimes authenticity and abrasiveness are two sides of the same coin.

 

Thought for the day: Malignant faith is when belief devours humanism.

 

Thought for the day: The strongest personal boundary is perspective anchored in love.

 

Question for the day: If love and anger got married would their offspring be spiritual fitness?

 

Thought for the day: The growth of wisdom involves the shrinkage of grandiosity.

 

Thought for the day: Remorseful middle-age wisdom is often the hangover from adolescent narcissism.

 

Thought for the day: The field of relationship counseling is dishonest about its own impotence in dealing with character deficit problems.

 

Thought for the day: The unglamorous truth is that meaning is a neurological event.

 

Thought for the day: It’s a paradoxical irresponsibility to live life in a constant state of responsibility.

 

Thought for the day: In a healthy relationship the love from one’s partner is a condiment on top of the staple of one’ own spirituality.

 

Thought for the day: Love isn’t something you find. It’s something you free.

 

Thought for the day: Wisdom is the ability to smell the futute pain from a bad choice before you make it.

 

Thought for the day: Most people are afraid of their shame and ashamed of their fear.

 

Thought for the day: The flip side of arrogance is cowardice.

 

Thought for the day: Life degenerates when valuing reverts to evaluation.

 

Thought for the day: Why doesn’t the English language discriminate between “wanting” pleasure versus “wanting” to avoid pain?

 

Thought for the day: The most common human emotional state is ambivalence.

 

Thought for the day: Sometimes psychotherapy feels like constructing a ship in a bottle with the bottle painted black.

 

Thought for the day: Feeling “silly” is often the price of real growth.

 

Thought for the day: It is more respectful to remain in baffled awe than to paint a human face on God.

 

Thought for the day: Psychotherapy often feels like constructing a ship in a bottle that’s painted black.

 

Thought for the day: Does neg-entropy transcend our present four dimensional brane or are we just roadkill on the space-time highway?

 

Thought for the day: One can never be enough by trying to do enough.

 

Thought for the day: Oxytocin is probably the fuel of spirituality.

 

Thought for the day: Wishing you all a merry Christmas.

 

Thought for the day: When you reach 60 breakfast is every 15 minutes.

 

Thought for the day: There is great freedom derived from appreciating ambivalence.

 

Thought for the day: Each one of us is the god of our own virtual world.

 

Thought for the day: A relationship is the crucible in which we temper our character.

 

Thought for the day: A spiritual couch potato is someone who always places pride, appearance and comfort over truth and responsibility.

 

Thought for the day: Pride is a condiment in life. Spiritual meaning is the staple.

 

Thought for the day: Unexpressed expectations in a relationship are like buried IEDs.

 

Thought for the day: If you’re trying to “find” meaning the you’ve already impeded yourself.

 

Thought for the day. It is the epitome of arrogance when we construe God in our own mental image.

 

Thought for the day: We use the word “want” without discriminating very different kinds of motives. The English language is very dumb.

 

Thought for the day: The frame of meaning behind a behavior will make all the difference in a relationship.

 

Thought for the day: Personal boundaries are more actions than objects. We create them intuitively.

 

Thought for the day: The ability to balance ambivalence is a good measure of emotional maturity.

 

Thought for the day: If we use pride to define ourselves then we will always find shame nipping at one’s heals.

 

Thought for the day: Maybe we have it backwards. Perhaps we are all distant ancestors of God.

 

Thought for the day: The stronger our mental autonomy , the more we can risk getting close.

 

Thought for the day: One doesn’t find meaning in life. One cultivates it.

 

Thought for the day: It’s most extraordinary to appreciate the ordinary.

 

Thought for the day: Curiosity is one of the most under-appreciated resources in a relationship.

 

Thought for the day: You can’t “fix” a bad marriage. You can only cultivate a healthier balance.

 

Thought for the day: The biggest fear in relationships is that we will be a mere footnote in someone else’s life.

 

Thought for the day: If we want our lives to be meaningful then we’ve already taken a leap of faith into spirituality

 

Thought for the day: Real strength is the resilience that comes from being able to face our own truth.

 

Thought for the day: Where we focus our attention determines the direction towards which we will grow.

 

Thought for the day: The reason why you love someone usually has little to do with reason.

 

Thought for the day: Happiness is the integral function of joy across time.

 

Thought for the day: New growth often requires the courage to feel silly.

 

Thought for the day: If we have to prove our worth then we’ve already failed.

 

Thought for the day: Balancing is superior to balance in a relationship.

 

Thought for the day: Anger in the form of fierce determination can be love’s ally.

 

Thought for the day: Real weakness is to try to prove your strength to others.

 

Thought for the day: Some things only become possible when you defocus off of the goal.

 

Thought for the day: It’s really a shame to try to be normal. Why set your sights so low?

 

Thought for the day: The practice of love requires a lot more courage than the feeling of love.

 

Thought for the day: The world tells you to shoot for the stars but the truth is that unrealistic expectations can wound.

 

Thought for the day: You don’t really “set” boundaries. You feel them implicitly in your mind.

 

Thought for the day: The meaning of one’s life is a spiritual creation.

 

Thought for the day: Shame is like mold. It grows in the dark.

 

Thought for the day: A meaningful life always requires an implicit leap of faith.

 

Thought for the day: Wisdom is mostly the implicit awareness of limitations.

 

Thought for the day: How many people view their life through other people’s eyes?

 

Thought for the day: We don’t really attach to people. We attach to the models of other people we make in our minds.

 

Thought for the day: Analyzing a relationship together is a terrible way to try to get close.

 

Thought for the day: The answer is already within you. What you’re really seeking is the courage to face it.

 

Thought for the day: adult love has more to do with receiving than giving.

 

Thought for the day: underneath anger you can always find fear, pain or both.

 

Thought for the day: there is always some cowardice in arrogance.

 

Thought for the day: we are never so strong as when we face the truth about our own shame.

 

Thought for the day: the safe passage to love skirts the shoals of pride and shame.

 

Dr. Bryce and Helen Kaye operate Love Odyssey Charters that specializes in 7 and 5 day marriage counseling retreats to rescue relationships.  Each private retreat sails one couple at a time in their pilothouse sailboat to port towns along the rivers and sounds of coastal North Carolina.  Visit them at www.odysseymarriageretreats.com .

 

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