Q: I’ve been married for 4 yrs. For past 3 1/2 I’ve been very unhappy where it is affecting me emotionally. I’ve had two N. brkdowns. I can’t leave him because of afraid of being alone, afraid of ending up losing everything again, and what my family would think.
Since day one, on my wedding day, hes been cheating by cybering, emails, text, calls, pictures, lying about that & everything, and putting me down to everyone. He’s killed my love and my spirit…whats next?
A: Lisa, the answer to your question is easy. What’s next is more of the same…..of course. You make a case of a long history of deceitful behavior. The real question is what you’re going to do about your emotional vulnerability and deficit in autonomy. You’re too afraid of being alone. You badly need resources and I would suggest you Google up CoDA (for Codependents Anonymous) and seek out an individual therapist as well. You may already have one but if you don’t then get one. Character problems in your partner or yourself would NOT be something one of our Love Odyssey marriage counseling retreats would be able to fix. Good luck. – Bryce Kaye