Q: I have been in a relationship for almost two years. He is a good man, but has only had sex with me twice and he stopped in the middle of it. He says he loves me wants to marry me but we both agree with have a sexual problem and he blames me. What do you think the problem could be?
A: Sandie, the problem is probably how your boyfriend is construing sex with you in his mind. We have no way of knowing how that is unless he’s willing to explore it with a sex therapist. If he’s not willing to look at that before you get married, I’d advise you to consider whether you want to marry someone who won’t carry out his due diligence to protect your relationship. Love without responsibility is a poor way to start a marriage. – Bryce Kaye 10/15/2011