A: Carly. I would suggest that you give him several choices. Do the research and give him data on 3 marriage counselors. Get him to choose one of them. By reframing his choice to be among the three, he will be less likely to focus on his choice of opposing you. Another option would be to negotiate a contingency contract. It would look like this. You would agree to temporarily suspend the idea of marriage counseling if he would come up with a plan of his own for improving the marriage. However, he would need to agree that if his plan does not improve the marriage to your satisfaction within 6 months (or another mutually acceptable time frame), then he would be committed to trying your plan of marriage counseling. Hope this helps. – Bryce Kaye
Carly from Kansas City, Mo.: Husband Rejects Marriage Counseling (Q & A)
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