Q: My husband and I have been married for 6 1/2 years. We have 3 children and live far away from family. My husband has a very demanding job with many hours and lots of travel. I am very lonely, raising the 3 children practically alone. I keep urging him to change jobs because I am emotionally, physically, and mentally fatigued and our marriage and family are falling apart. His job has become more demanding in the last 2-3 years and I feel I’m at my wits end. Recently he told me he needed time apart, time to think, and that he was very unhappy. I am scared to death he wants to leave me. I had never felt this way till now and it’s been four days and he will not talk to me. I don’t know what to do! I need to know what he’s doing but he won’t talk. I have needs too! I almost feel like he’s going through a midlife crisis but he’s only in his 30’s. I’ve heard of the 7 years itch, could this be it? I don’t know what to do since this has gone on longer than normal?
A: Tina. Try to get into marriage counseling fast. If your spouse is unwilling to talk to you about what’s really going on, then there’s real possibility that he’s trying to sort out whether or not to stay. You would do well to give him another avenue of hope other than the two he’s probably juggling. I’m sorry to cause you discomfort but your fears sound realistic. – Bryce Kaye